Sponsored: SkinStore.com asked if I would like to collaborate with them on their 'Everyday Confidence' Campaign. They surveyed American women (Women, Makeup & Self Confidence) about how they felt about their natural beauty. Only 2% of women described themselves as 'gorgeous'. 60% felt 'fairly average and nothing special' with no makeup. They asked me to discuss how I felt about these results. Do I fall into the same category? Can I leave the house without foundation?
Personally, there was a time in my life where I would not go ANYwhere without makeup or not be well dressed. If I went to the grocery store, I had makeup on and was well dressed. If I went to the post office, makeup on and well dressed. When I went to my college classes, makeup on and well dressed. If I worked out, (yep) makeup on and athletic-wear dressed (LOL). Did I think bad of myself? No. That is just the way I grew up! I was taught to put yourself together when you go out.
Now, don't get me wrong, I had hang ups about myself growing up! I was very tall compared to others in elementary school. I've been confused my entire life as black mixed with asian, hispanic, black mixed with white...what is she? LOL I had a bad spout of acne in my adult years, which didn't make me feel good. But an immediate trip to the dermatologist cleared it up in a month. But I can never think of a time where I called myself UGLY or not liking myself.
I think the hardest challenge for me, was years ago when I lost a lot of my hair (relaxer gone bad). I dated this guy for about a year and when that happened everything really changed between us. It was so hurtful at first! I really loved him. But there were so many red flags with him, that it took me to lose my hair for the truth to really hit me. He was gorgeous on the outside, but was verbally abusive, selfish, self-centered and a womanizer. He didn't love me for me. He only loved how I looked and what I could do for him. I wouldn't have been happy with him. So losing my hair was a blessing.
My hair did grow back, but many of you know I unfortunately used a shampoo/conditioner recommended by a YouTuber that dried out my hair out and when it was relaxed ... chunks of hair came out. I'm STILL rebounding from that incident. But these really bad circumstances made me LOOK AT ME FOR WHO I AM! Hardly any hair! It was hard at first! People probably thought I suffered from cancer. But guess what? I now walk out of my house with no makeup! Confident with my skin! I dress down almost always now. Still confident in who I am. If you can't like me for me, then you're superficial! I cannot tell you how many "friends" I have disconnected from (even here on the blog). I've done massive clean outs! A long time ago, I use to judge a book by it's cover. I don't do that anymore. I don't care if you have a million tattoos! I don't care if your hair is red, green or purple! I don't care if you have a high school diploma, college degree, masters or phD. I don't care if you're black, white, asian, hispanic, african etc. It matters not! I will like you for who you truly are!
I've always thought of myself as nice looking, but always striving to be better. I'm not afraid of, jealous or intimidated by beautiful women. As a matter of fact, I flock to them! I'm the one that will go up to you, and ask WHAT ARE YOU USING? WHERE DID YOU FIND THAT? LOL I'm always complimenting women on their skin, makeup and what they're wearing. I'm very secure with myself. There was this 70 year old woman in the grocery store around Halloween, and she was wearing this real snazzy black cat t-shirt. I just came out and said, "I love your t-shirt and you look so good". She said, THANK YOU with a great big smile and said it was her birthday. Which brings me to...
I don't think enough women encourage or compliment one another. I've always tried to do so in life (eg. I like your hair. I like your dress. What pretty lipstick!) and here on A Very Sweet Blog. I've seen a mix of confidence while blogging. Some not very confident. Some confident. Some pretending to be confident, but are really unsure of themselves.
Everyone has a story! Everyone's story is different! This is just mine. I don't look at others to be like them. I like me. I do look to others for inspiration! You have to be able to separate things! Do I buy Kylie Jenner's lipstick to look like, act like or be like her. Hell no! I don't want to be her! I just think that metallic lipstick would look great on me :D. Why do I buy Anastasia Beverly Hills liquid lipsticks? They're of excellent quality, smell good & look great on the lips! I also love her Snapchat stories because she travels the world and sees exciting things! I admire that! When you want to transform into a person, that can be a problem. I connect with others, that can teach me things (no matter what they have or how they look). I connect with others who are inspiring to me. I'll leave you with this...INSPIRE OTHERS...BE INSPIRED! GOD has given each one of us gifts! Share them! Teach others!